Things You Do That Annoy Your Coworkers

It’s the end of the week. Thank goodness, right? Now you can get a break from your coworkers. As nice as they may be, I’m sure they do things that annoy you. Likewise, you probably do at least something to annoy them. Here’s a list of some of the irritants I’ve experienced over the years.

Around The Office

Playing music too loudly – It doesn’t matter whether you’re listening via headphones or speakers at your desk, if anyone who isn’t sitting directly in front of your computer can hear your music then it’s too loud.

Clicking a mouse like you’re afraid to touch it – I never thought I’d run into this one, but apparently some people poise their finger way too far above the mouse clicker so instead of a soft click, they sound like they are playing whack-a-mole with their mouse. Don’t be one of those people, particularly if you work in close proximity to others. That repetitive loud clicking/jabbing noise is irritating after several hours. It’s the equivalent of listening to a dripping faucet.

Barging into someone’s office or cubicle and launching into a topic without first announcing your presence – Give people a chance to stop what they’re doing before talking about something. In addition, stand at the perimeter of the cubicle and not right up against your coworker’s chair. No one wants your crotch in their face!

Email

Emailing important information in a screenshot instead of within an actual file – A screenshot is fine if you’re just explaining something and using the screenshot as backup, but if you’re asking someone to setup an account, for instance, and the data is in Excel or Word, don’t send them a screenshot and make them have to retype all the info. Send them the actual file, or at the very least, copy and paste it into the body of your email. Think about how you’d like to receive the same information from someone else and don’t make their job harder than it has to be.

Neglecting to include attachments when forwarding an email – If someone emails you a question that includes attachments and you need to forward that on, use the forward option in Outlook and then CC the original person so they see you’re addressing their concern. Do not hit reply, add the new party to the thread, and then hit send. Now that new person doesn’t have all the information required to address the issue.

Addressing two entirely different topics in one email – If someone sends you two emails about completely different topics, please make it easier on everyone by responding to both emails separately instead of tacking your answer to both on one of them. It makes it difficult to follow the thread otherwise when in an email about time off you include “oh and yes, you need to do XYZ with the TPS reports”. Later when that person needs to justify why they did XYZ with the TPS reports, they aren’t going to remember to check the thread about time off for your answer. Unless you’re intentionally trying to make your colleagues’ jobs more difficult, please do not do this.

Hijacking an email thread to ask an off-topic question – Similarly to the issue above, this makes it difficult for people to follow a thread and/or find one later on. If you want to talk about something new, please start a new email thread.

Final Thoughts

Do you recognize yourself in any of these behaviors? It’s worth considering since most people aren’t going to address them with you but might like you less if you’re constantly annoying them.

What do your coworkers do that annoy you?

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It’s not always easy to feel gratitude.

Complaints and Gratitude.

Complaints and Gratitude.

In fact, I think it would be easier for many of us to list all the things that annoy us. Case in point – the woman sitting behind us at a college concert this weekend who kept rustling through her purse to eat a snack even though food was prohibited in the auditorium. The noise she was making was extremely distracting and diminished our enjoyment of the show. People can be so rude!

Or how about all the annoying drivers on the road who can’t seem to realize their actions affect other people? Craziness!

See how easy it is to complain? But this week of all weeks is a time to reflect on the positive and give thanks for the good things in life – family, friends, and the pets we adore. Just the mere fact that I was born in the United States is reason to give thanks (despite my jokes that I’m moving to Canada (too cold)). I’m lucky just to have been born somewhere I have many more freedoms than other people in the world, not to mention an abundance of food, shelter, and water.

And on the days when people drive me crazy, as they inevitably will, I force myself to take a step back and reflect on all the things I have that someone else might not; someone will always have more than me, so it does no good to make a comparison to them. I’m sure some people would suggest you shouldn’t make comparisons at all, but if that works to make you a more grateful person, then I say go for it. Because when I’m not feeling grateful, I’m not my best self, and I want to be better today than I was yesterday.

ThankYou

And while we are on the subject, I think it’s important to show our gratitude to others. The simple words thank you often go unsaid. Perhaps it makes me a petty person, but if I do something nice for someone and they don’t utter those words, I can’t help but notice and think of that person a little less. Because at the end of the day it’s really not that hard to show someone that you appreciate them (or their actions) by thanking them. I hope you reflect on that and consider whether or not you thank the people in your life for the things they do for you. I know they’d appreciate hearing it.

And if you’re in the U.S., Happy Thanksgiving!

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Even though we like to focus primarily on financial matters on this blog, today I want to talk about relationships, and our marriage in particular. We’ve been married for nine years, but together for a total of fourteen as of this coming January. What continues to amaze both of us is how well we still get along. And we very rarely fight (we do play-argue a ton, though, because we love to tease one another and have a good time).

So what’s our “secret”? I think it comes down to respect and appreciation, among other things. But those two are at the top of the list. We still say please and thank you and do not take one another for granted. We also approach each other respectfully even if the other person has done something to aggravate us. A good example of this comes from an incident that happened this morning.

To give you a little background, Joe shaves his own head in our master bathroom. I also keep a night light plugged in for when I get up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom so I don’t wake myself, or him, up fully by turning on the overhead light. Early this morning when the alarm went off I went to use the restroom, but as I felt around the outlet, the nightlight wasn’t there. It then occurred to me that Joe had removed it last night to plug in his clippers and had forgotten to put it back (which he does from time to time). I didn’t want to turn on the light as I was planning to go back to sleep (since I don’t work on Fridays), so I went back in the bedroom and said, “Joe, can you plug in the nightlight so I can use the bathroom? I can’t find it”. He quickly apologized and jumped up and took care of it for me. When he came back to bed I thanked him for finding it for me (since I had no idea where he had put it and couldn’t see it in the dark). Then we got a little snuggle time in before the alarm went off again and he left for work.

Now, I could have just gotten aggravated (to be honest, I did feel a bit aggravated, but I did not let that color my response) and “yelled” at him for not putting it back, but what kind of start to the day would that bring, and over something so trivial? I can totally see people doing that, however. I actually know of a couple who would probably get into a huge fight over this exact thing. But in the end reacting in a negative manner will only bring resentment and bitterness to a marriage, not love and togetherness. And if it was really that big of a deal to me, I could always bring it up later so we could talk about it without emotions getting involved.

Even though I said we never fight, that doesn’t mean we don’t disagree with one another or never get on one another’s nerves. It’s just in how you handle it. We’re extremely lucky in the regard that we both tend to approach things in the same way so it makes disagreements easier to handle. For instance, we always take the other person’s feelings into consideration, and we never call each other names (except when we are playing around and it’s obvious we’re not upset). Our neighbors are always screaming at one another (we can hear them through the not-so-insulated walls) and it just blows my mind to hear people treating each other that way. I honestly can’t think of even one instance when either of us screamed at the other one in an angry way. The only screaming that has ever occurred in this house is when one of us needs the other one’s attention ASAP and they are on a different level and we can’t come to them for some reason (like if we hurt ourselves, for instance).

If you happen to be in a relationship where fighting or screaming is the norm, I challenge you to try a gentler approach and see what happens. I think you’d be pleasantly surprised to see how your reaction can positively influence your partner’s response (and if not, they suck and you should separate… kidding!)

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